No Means NO!


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You most likely see a swinger every day, only you don’t see them. Odds are that your neighbour, a partner at work or even a relative is a swinger. The sexually free are found in each group, and inside each ethnic group. The swinger’s lifestyle is developing and achieving new levels constantly.

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We follow certain rules and conduct within the Lifestyle. No means NO...

Swinging isn’t only about sex.  It is about a community of people that care a lot about not stigmatising the act of sex.  Swingers are not cheaters.

Swinging is not illegal in most SA jurisdictions.  (Check your local state, county and city ordinances on Adultery and Fornication laws).   The only societal hangup is the moral issue and that comes down to your personal beliefs or feelings you have about sex.

The golden rule in the Lifestyle is “No means No!”  This is the mantra of the Lifestyle.  This is particularly important to single males who wish to Swing.  Respecting everyone is paramount and maintaining a good comfort level is imperative.  Pushy, arrogant, or pompous people will not last long in the Lifestyle.  We are a very close-knit community and your word-of-mouth reputation goes a long way.

Anyone (yourself included) may say no at any time for any reason, without further explanation.  If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say No!  Do not jeopardise your joy and satisfaction with the Lifestyle (or that of your partner) by doing anything against your will.  Do not submit to guilt or pressure.  Swinging is fun.  Keep it that way.  Disentangle yourself as quickly as possible with a firm, but gentle response.  Be honest but up front in order to avoid misunderstandings.

Always be kind.  First and foremost.  It’s the proper, humane way to behave.  Secondly, you may reconsider and want to party with them later.  Keep your options open.

Everyone has been rejected at some time.  If you’re rejected do not take personal offence.  Keep the encounter upbeat and light.  Who knows,  the person who passes up the opportunity today, may want to play with you tomorrow, or may be the key to you meeting another terrific partner!

Know your own likes, dislikes, boundaries and strengths, thoroughly.  Encourage and aid others in their own explorations.  Keep relationships friendly and pleasant.  Always propose, never impose!  Swingers feel their way through encounters in more than one way.  Open all channels of communication.

Deal with jealousy head on!  It is a normal, human reaction.  Learn what triggers jealousy in yourself and in your partner.  Then work things out.  This may mean modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual expression.  Festering jealousies are destructive.  Seek constructive remedies as soon as possible.

Let your steady partner know he or she is always number one!  Take time to stroke their ego.  Be generous with a kiss and a smile.  Touch bases with each other often, so that you both feel secure.  Always arrive together.  Honor any and all prior understandings and always leave together.

Use common sense and courtesy when you’re at a swing club, a meeting place, or someone’s house.  Concentrate on being kind, thoughtful and sensitive and smile.  Happiness is contagious!

Respect the guidelines others set, and make your own wishes and desires clear.  There should be no surprises!  If you are Bi for example, ask if the couple or single you have chosen has a similar interest.  Likewise, if you really object to greek or bondage, bring it up for discussion.  Once you are all comfortable with the format, let the games begin.

Before, during and after you party, pay close attention to “body language.”  There is more to human interaction than just sexual signals, but that is definitely part of the picture.  Enhance your romance by considering the total person.  Learn to read the signs and you will pick up on what makes your partner comfortable, happy, excited, and ultimately satisfied.

DISCRETION IS PARAMOUNT IN THE SWING COMMUNITY! Who you see, what you see and what you and everyone else does, MUST remain private.  Never ever discuss details with anyone not intimately involved.  Promoting the Lifestyle is wonderful.  Publicising it is unforgivable. Demand absolute discretion…and be worthy of the same.

Remember:  Although the Lifestyle is about having fun with sex, it does not mean that it is ONLY about sex.  Attraction, chemistry and social graces mean a lot to being successful with other couples and singles.

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